I’m going skydiving in a week. Actually, 7 days but who’s counting. OK, I’m counting because I can't wait. I try not to get too excited about these things because you never know. If I get all pumped up and start telling people how great it's going to be, I could very well get to the point where I’m supposed to jump and just pee my pants. That would be disappointing.
So, with reservation, I am quite excited. I have to say, because everyone thinks it,that I hope I don’t die. That said, I really am more excited than scared. So this is the before. I intend to check back in with my feelings when the time is a little closer. Perhaps the morning before we go. We’ll see how I feel then; and of course we’ll compare with what actually happens.
I wonder if I should wear some adult diapers, just in case…
Seriously.
As I approach 35 years of age I can’t help but realize the discrepancy between how old we “are” verses how old we “feel”. I feel about 20. (I don’t want to talk about how old I look.) This realization brought me to think about how some people refer to an old soul or a young soul. I’ve decided that our souls age more slowly than our physical bodies.
If you consider how we figure dogs age seven years for each of our one, I think our souls age in the opposite manner. That is the soul ages one year for each of our seven (give or take). Could it be that our souls have infinitely longer life spans than our physical bodies and thus have to find many bodies throughout their existence?
To take it one step further, could it be that, much in the same way people are forced to have multiple dogs during their lifetime, our souls are forced to have multiple bodies. And just like dogs, some bodies are wonderful joyous experiences while others are more challenging.
Could it be even, as we choose which breed of dog is best for our current state of life, our souls choose which body, race, or perhaps even planet, is the best match for it? And as some owners treat their puppy dogs with malice and disrespect, some spirits treat their bodies the same way.
Perhaps a young soul is harder on its body than an old soul? Perhaps some just abandon their bodies halfway through because they have to take a job somewhere else and they can’t find an apartment that will let them have a body?
It’s just a thought.
So I’ve been noticing lately the difference in how people treat each other. I’ve decided that perhaps there is something to be studied here. From customer service to driving, from riding the bus to walking down the street, lets face it; we’re going to have to interact with each other. I believe that each interaction is an opportunity to, at least, improve someone’s day at, on some level, improve the fabric of society. I’m going to start this study with the simple act of saying please and thank you.
First, how hard is it to say these words. “Please” – it’s one syllable, takes about half a second and doesn’t hurt at all. You don’t even have to make your tongue do anything strange. And how much does this simple word make a difference? It’s incredible really. Let’s try it shall we: “hand me my towel” vs. “hand me my towel, please.” Very similar phrases, yet the first implies an order and the second implies gratitude and a realization that this person did not have to hand you the towel. Granted, most times when you’re asking for a towel you would be on close terms with a person and may not need to say please but why not.
Thank you is even better. OK, it is two words and two syllables and takes maybe a full second to spit out, but man is it valuable. It should be mandatory for people to say after anyone does anything for you. From moving out of your way to picking you up at the airport. It simply acknowledges that other person has acknowledged your existence and altered their existence in favor of yours.
Now some may say that if we say these things all the time that it will dilute the meaning. I say that if you mean these words, that meaning will come across. You don’t have to grab someone by the shoulders, look them in the eye, tell them thank you, and then hug them if they just passed you the ketchup, but a simple thanks is certainly in order.
I work with a lady who never says please or thank you. It kills me. After two years of working with her I almost don’t want to lift a finger for her cause it seems like she demands everything and appreciates nothing. In fact, some days it makes me want to undo some of the things I’ve done just for the opportunity to glean some gratitude from her. It makes the work environment stressful and I believe is at the same time the cause and symptom of more serious problems. Our work place would be a more unified and caring environment if she would simply say “thanks” once in a while.
This philosophy can extend to our neighbors, the coffee girl, other people in traffic, and makes a large difference for a small effort. If we all treat each other as equals on this planet and with some respect, that respect will grow into caring and if we all cared about each other, there is nothing we wouldn’t do for each other and therefore we could accomplish anything.